Bring Your Life
The only way to understand something is to find some fundamental essence that can be understood, and is generally accepted as true. From there you can build more sophisticated understanding as you see the various parts at work, inter-relating.
There are some basics here that need to cover with you to make sure that you are sending the right message to the women you bring into your life. While there may have been a boyish charm in the behaviors you exhibited in grade school.