Hooking up and dating are fundamentally different. Each carriers it own set of norms for behavior, and although there is some overlap, there are several critical distinction. During the dating era, men initiated the invitation to go out on dates.
You have to take on a cretin mindset if you want to improve and become more successful with women. All too frequently, men look at dating and the prospecting process as an isolated event. They are either being "themselves" or they are flirting and dating, as if the two are separate parts of their personalities.